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You Live, You Learn

Everything in this world happens for a reason which one will only become aware of in hindsight. Friendships and other relationships are forged because at that particular point in your life the powers that be saw the need of the persons involved to be connected to each other. At the end of these alliances, being the fickle creatures that we are, we usually ask ourselves what was the point. There was a point and if you look objectively at where you are now in your process of development and where you were then you’d definitely see the reason.

Sadly not many of us do this and so people waste their time and energy striking out at the person who decided to end the relationship. This is something which I could never understand and probably never will. Why would I invest precious time and energy into trying to hurt someone who has probably forgotten all the times spent with you and moved on with their lives?

It is my belief that in order for you to truly be able to move on with your life and to achieve any level of self-actualization you must have a clean slate. You should forgive all the ‘fools’ who have wronged you, apologize to all those you’ve offended (and those who think you’ve offended them). Then and only then can you really begin to focus on the most important person in your life; you.

This is why I’ve decided to do just that this week. Forgive the fools, and apologize to those I have wronged. This is by no means an easy task, but it is something that must be done.

If you’re one of those persons who I’ve offended leave me a comment here and I’ll give you a public apology.

What Matters Most In a Relationship?

Say No To Deadwood Relationships

So recently I made a decision that hey, my self improvement ideas shouldn’t just stop at myself. It should also reflect in the company that I keep and so I made the conscious decision to weed out the bad seed from amongst my already small group of close “friends”.

Today I came across this post and it made my day. I just had to share it and hope that it will do the same to you too.

Work hard to be a good friend to others, and you will usually be rewarded in kind. If that doesn’t work, find a new group of people, because you shouldn’t be wasting your effort on deadwood.

So, that said, I believe I have weeded out the deadwood and I have moved on to bigger things, better things. My professional goals align better with my personal goals and I must say “It feels good!”

Be A Man

Health Wealth

Does it affect my Health/wealth?

Well. I haven’t blogged in quite a while. However, I’m quite peeved about a situation which has been unraveling lately and I had to put pen to paper. I am of the belief that being a man doesn’t only mean having a penis and balls. It doesn’t have to do with whether you’re effeminate or masculine. Having children doesn’t make you a man either. For one person to be considered a man there should be a certain level of respect given to you by real men around you and one should also be respected by women (no in this case your mother doesn’t count).

I am a person who is straight forward and will speak my mind in any situation, regardless of the outcome. I believe that if I have a disagreement with another man or woman, I should meet him or her and talk about it face to face. Leave the texting and phone calls to chicks who just want to blow up without having to face any serious consequences other than having the other person hang up on them.

Personally, I think you are not worthy of being called a man if you do not have the cojones to admit when you are wrong, to say a simple “I’m sorry” when the proof is irrefutable that you were wrong. You DO NOT dance around the situation and hope it goes away. You DO NOT lay blame at the foot of another person for your stupidity in past situations.

Your actions define you.

There are persons who I don’t like, but due to their actions I have to respect them. When a man can say in the middle of an argument that “If that’s what it sounded like I said, I’m sorry” and mean it, that man deserves respect.

Then there are persons who never accept the wrong in any situation, persons who will take Jesus off the cross even though they KNOW that they are wrong and still walk around with their heads held high after. Are you serious? Have you no conscience? Have you no sense? It’s one thing to lie and get away with it. It’s another thing entirely to lie to a friend who you KNOW knows the truth. It’s just stupid. You’re just stupid. Stupid is as stupid does and I refuse to align myself with anyone who is too stupid.

I’m sorry, I have a progressive agenda, like all men should have and wasting my time on petty situations that will benefit neither my health or my wealth does not sound progressive to me.

Like Russel Peters said “BE A MAN”.

Is Marriage Bad For Your Health??

While surfing the net I came across this article talking about marriage and its effect on your health. Well on your weight at least.

Apparently people gain weight after they get married…really?! I did not notice, I guess studying 8900 people over a span of a few years made more sense than just using common sense and looking at your sister after she tied that proverbial knot…

“People who stay single, or become single again by divorce, may be somewhat more physically fit than those in wedded bliss,” or rather so says a new study.

There was a study done which followed almost 9000 people over a few years which then determined that those who were married were lessfit when hit with cardiovascular tests.
Interestingly enough though, if you got divorced as a male, then they experienced an increase in fitness levels.
These findings are not limited to males however as females experienced an increase in fitness if they stayedsingle throughout the study.

Apparently the message the researchers wanted to get across is that life changes affect our health….riiiiighhhhhtttt!! Or, maybe marriage is just bad for your health.

Why Did I Bother to Change?

Ever notice how an individual will do their best to change negative aspects of their personality and drop things which are really unnecessary and still end up in trouble for things done in the past?

Well, sometimes I am left to wonder why is it that we should bother to change if persons are still going to get worked up over the things which you have done and left behind and most times even forgotten?

If that is going to be the case then we might as well continue down the path of past years if we are still going to be seen and judged in that light!

I’m Sipping On Sumn

So, its been forever since I made me a post so here I am!!! Still alive and(in my humble opinion) better off and just about ready to demolish anything the world throws at me.

Anyways, I was walking down the street last night and listening  to the song “Single” by Li’l Wayne and browsing Facebook on my phone,  when I heard a voice say “good evening Mr. Senior”….me being lost in what I was doing merely  grunted “mmmm” then I noticed out the corner of my eye a li’l hesitation as if the person expected me to stop or something….I looked up and around and realized I was looking at the well shaped derrière of my ex….I was surprised but she had already gotten over her hesitation and moved on so I did the same….anyways…here is “Single” by Li’l Wayne….I dare you to play this song only once….I dare you…